Clarification

I want to mention for the record, that my marriage isn't always bad. We have stretches of good times. However, when it goes south, it really goes south and it goes in a hurry. When we are getting along and she is happy for any length of time, it is fantastic.

But God forbid if something goes down and she gets angry...

About me...

I am a pretty normal man. I'd like to think I am very stable however being married has called that into question.

I work a regular 9-5.
I'm 30 something.
I'm white/caucasian
I stay in pretty good shape... no beer gut, extra chins, etc...
I've always been called handsome (and not just by my mother)
I make more money than the average American, but am by no means wealthy.

I'm Joe the fucking Plumber... only my name isn't Joe and I'm not a plumber.

I've ALWAYS gotten along well with other people. People tend to like me.

I've been married for roughly 10 years. Like many, my marriage has had its share of tests and stumbling blocks. It is in no way, shape or form a "perfect" marriage. Such a thing, I'm convinced does not exist.

I've never cheated on my wife. I don't hit or abuse her.

I have a 3 year old daughter and 1 on the way. I know what you are thinking... "if your marriage is so fucked up, why are you having another kid???". My marriage isn't really "fucked up". It's just that marriage is hard. I don't ever intend on getting a divorce, nor does she. That being said... if we had no children, divorce may be an option for both of us. However, if we had no children, many of our marital issues would be non-existent. So... maybe my marriage is fucked up. Who knows? See!!! See what marriage has done to me?

Anyway, I am from a broken home. My wife is from a broken home. I'll assume that that is a major factor on our marital issues (at least that is what my Psychologist tells me).

Oh yea... I currently see a Psychologist 4 times a month to help me deal with my wife. Quite frankly, I think it is my wife that needs to see a Psychologist, but since she won't...

And that is pretty much where I am coming from.

As I blog, more info will come out about me. I'm going to try to keep it pretty vague though so as to not give too much info.

My next entry will be about a recent fight.

About This Blog

Hi,
This blog, as the title indicates, is about marriage. A pretty hefty topic to cover right? One that has been covered time and time again by millions of books, psychologists, doctors, papers, thesises, opinions, whatever... You name it. The point is, it's been covered really thoroughly. Yet, somehow it is still a fucking mystery to me! Apparently, I'm not very good at it.

I hope to achieve a number of things by writing this blog and HOPEFULLY having others read it.

• I'd really like this to be a therapeutic process for me. In short, I will use this blog to vent. For example, when I get into an argument with my wife, I will post a description of the argument and my feelings about said argument.
  
• I'd like to get input from people in similar situations. Men AND Women. While I know for a fact that I am not the only one having marital problems, it would be nice to hear from others. Women!!! Chime in here... tell me where I'm wrong or right. Help me understand what goes on in your heads. What I'm trying to say is, Throw me a friggin bone!
  
• Finally, I hope that this blog can help others in similar situations to deal with their marriage problems.

In writing this blog, I will use pretty strong language, because when I get emotional, that is how I talk. I will often talk ill of women in general, because at the moment, that is how I feel. Let me state for the record, that I am not chauvinistic at all. When I speak ill of women, it is because for one reason or another, my wife has struck a nerve that makes me hate... "hate" is too strong a word... makes me.... despise... no.... makes me less than enthusiastic about women in general. Much like when women say "all men are dogs". Not true right? However, some man has done something to that woman to evoke such a statement. Men have similar responses.

What am I looking for from you, the reader?
1st, I'm hoping that people actually find and read my blog. I think that it will have a lot to offer.
2nd, I'd really like people to respond. Both men AND women. Give me your thoughts! Women, I'm pretty sure you are going to see a lot of things on here that upset you. Keep in mind, nothing I say on this blog in any way is being said to elicit any sort of response. Everything I say are simply my feelings at the time.
3rd, I hope that you take something away from my blog that helps you cope with your marriage.

Finally, I want it to be a fun experience. I'll try to mix in some humor with my misery. Unfortunately, I won't be able to post any pictures of myself as my wife isn't aware of the fact that I'm writing this blog. Therefore, names will be changed and places will be modified.

My next entry will be an "About me" post.